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Three Enemies trying to Kill Your Dream.

Written by prodigal Featured Content, Justice 9 Comments
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This is a guest post from Chris Marlow, the Founder/CEO of Help One Now. He lives in downtown Raleigh with his wife and two daughters. He strives to be a justice advocate who loves empowering leaders (and tribes) to launch movements for doing good. You can connect with him on Twitter, Facebook or his blog!
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We all have big dreams and hopes to live our lives with meaning and significance.
We want to do work that matters. We want to be with people about whom we care. We have passions, hopes, aspirations. In the perfect world, we would pursue our dreams with a reckless abandon — with no “Plan B”.

But, the world is not perfect. We have enemies doing their best to destroy us. They whisper to us that our dreams will not become real.

Let me tell you this. It is a lie. But lies have destroyed humanity from Day One. Remember the story in the garden — the one with God, a snake, a man and women?

It did not work out well, because an enemy was present and humans became distracted.

Of course, every single person has to face their enemies if they want to see their dreams come to fruition.

I think there are three enemies that will destroy your dreams:

The first is Spiritual — Scripture is quite clear. We have a spiritual enemy who wants us to live in the flesh and not the Spirit. The flesh always leads to a place called despair, but the Spirit always leads us to place of hope.

For everyone, this war wages everyday. No one can avoid it.

We usually try to ignore it, but that is a fatal mistake, for ignoring it will cause our lives to suffer from not dealing with this spiritual reality.

The second is Fear – You have a dream . . . you know, that thing that keeps you up at night. It is the book or blog, the song or album, the blank canvas that in your mind you know what you want it to look like.

It is too easy to push down your dream worrying about details.

The business, the travel, the relationships — there are endless reason why we should not take the plunge.

But fear is what those reasons come down to. We are too scared to jump into the deep. What if we drown? What if we can’t swim? Will somebody rescue me? Worse, will anyone even care?

We will never know until we jump in, and most people will never take the leap. Therefore, the dream just rests in the mind, creating agony for the artist.

The final enemy is Resistance – Made famous by Pressfield in The War of Art, this is the day to day battle of doing the work. The work is the hardest part. It is frustrating and painful and tiring and challenging.

So, we avoid it and make excuses.

Yet, it is the work that will launch your dream. There is no magic wand. There is no microwave or quick-fix solution.

To get to the top of the mountain, you have to climb. Step by step. Of course, you could take take the cable-car, but that means you did not conquer – the work was not yours. You got to the top of the mountain because of someone else’s work. Believe me. It is not the same!

Dreams come alive when you take them step by step.

Everyday, over and over. You face your fears, you fight the resistance (procrastination) and you pursue your God-given talent knowing that an enemy is always trying to get you to eat the fruit.

I just launched a dream. It’s called the Legacy Project. My organization — Help One Now — is raising $100,000 to build a school in Petionville, Haiti, for over 150 orphans and vulnerable children.  It will be a safe space for children who have virtually nothing and a shelter for the surrounding community.

I faced my fear of failing. I looked evil in the eye. I had to overcome the resistance and launch the project to the public. I still don’t know if it will succeed. I guess we will find out soon. But because it’s public, because the risk was taken, the dream can become real.

It was hard, tiring labor, but now the real work can begin.

The thing is, though, that we cannot do this alone. We need you to help us this Christmas. It takes 4000 bricks to build the school – can you buy 1 brick for $25? Or maybe 2 or 4, or even a bundle (10 bricks) for $250?

And will you help us get the word out to your tribe?

Even now, I’m facing my fear that you will say no. I feel the resistance to stop writing; screaming in my mind is “Don’t bother asking.”

But a school needs to be built. Haiti’s orphans need an education.

Together, we can create great work. Because greatness is never created without a community that can help the work become real.

What is your dream? What do you need to do to make it become a reality?

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  • Lamar Stockton

    ok…ok… I’ll start writing songs again!

    but seriously, this is true. it’s easy to dream, but it’s hard work to make our dreams reality…it’s hard work to see the creative process through to an end result…and it’s frightening to put that end result out there for the world to see. But, whether it’s an album, a painting, a poem, or a school in Haiti…the dream is worth the work.

    thanks for this post, Chris

  • Jon

    Excellent message, “taking the plunge” can be especially unsettling. As you said, dreams only become reality when you are brave enough to take that first step, and strong enough to ignore the voices telling you not to. It’s powerful to recognize this and to take a stand regardless.

    Thanks Chris

  • http://twitter.com/Pink_birrd Molly

    I think I need to print this out and read it every few days…to get myself to that first step.

    • http://www.chrismarlow.me/ Chris Marlow

      Molly,
      You can do it.

  • Rick

    What do you do when you stopped dreaming many years ago. Have prayed for dreams and direction and purpose, keep coming up blank, hard not to give up and just survive one day at a time

    • http://www.chrismarlow.me/ Chris Marlow

      Rick,
      Start small and take it step by step. Just don’t give up.

    • RCC

      what do you love doing everyday that can also be transformed into an organization/business with a purpose?

  • Lori

    Love it…..There are way too many negative voices out there who say it can’t be done, God says everything is possible to him who believes……In God, with His it’s all possible! Great post, and I am so excited to be a small part of this dream! Lori