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Recently my wife and I took our two nieces out to talk to them about purity. They know the in’s and out’s of sex and are already feeling the pressures at school at the age of 14. The school had taught them all about protection as well as the benefits of abstinence but we wanted to really make it special to them. We wanted to make sure they knew how important this beautiful thing is and how amazing their spouse will feel when they know that they had waited for them.
We made it a big deal…We made them queens for the night, and took them to one of the nicest restaurants in town, and at the end of the meal presented them with promise rings. We asked them to make a commitment that night, not for us, but for themselves. And we wanted to make sure they knew that we were there for them if they ever needed support (and by support I mean I will find the boy and teach him a lesson in manners, if you know what I mean…if a little bigshot trys to be suave)
The thing that kept coming to my mind as we spoke to them about making a purity commitment was the night my parents took me out. They gave me a white gold chain over a nice dinner and told me it was a symbol of my commitment to my wife. It was a beautiful idea…I would save myself in the light of respecting my wife and God. Then the pain came rushing into my head as I remembered the white gold chain dangling on my neck as I had sex for the first time….I remember wanting to throw it in the lake afterwards. She wasn’t my wife, and I broke my promise. As we spoke to our nieces, I couldn’t help but wonder if this night would make a difference in their life. I had all the right intentions and believe me, the chain helped remind me time after time why I was turning down sex with girls. But in the end I failed and the chain became a reminder of my mistake. I don’t know why a recent report about purity commitments suprised me, since myself and many other guys I know lost their virginity before they were married as well but I still am. The study reports that:
Teenagers who pledge to remain virgins until marriage are just as likely to have premarital sex as those who do not promise abstinence and are significantly less likely to use condoms and other forms of birth control when they do, according to a study released today.
The new analysis of data from a large federal survey found that more than half of youths became sexually active before marriage regardless of whether they had taken a “virginity pledge,” but that the percentage who took precautions against pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases was 10 points lower for pledgers than for non-pledgers.
“Taking a pledge doesn’t seem to make any difference at all in any sexual behavior,” said Janet E. Rosenbaum of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, whose report appears in the January issue of the journal Pediatrics. “But it does seem to make a difference in condom use and other forms of birth control that is quite striking.”
Is it all for nothing? Do the words have no effect? Or are they only words in the heat of the moment? Did it work for you? Did you take a purity pledge and make it? Please post your success story in the comments if you have one.
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