Archive | August, 2009

One Man’s Journey Through Sex Addiction Pt.1

30. April 2009

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One Man’s Journey Through Sex Addiction Pt.1

It's midnight and just like many other nights each week, I found myself in the home office in front of my computer again. All of my good intentions, the ones saturated with denial and rationalization, are to work on my dissertation. Soon my real intentions take over and a couple of clicks later the screen of boring black and white text changes to bright colors of pornography. I am lost now in the world that is so familiar to me. It's a world of fantasy and escape. I shut out all the pain and thoughts and feelings of my life. I push aside any sense of responsibility to do something more productive. I lose track of time as I travel deeper into my world of fantasy and escape. Suddenly I am jarred back to reality with that dreadful sound of my wife's voice. "What are you doing?" I have been caught again. My whole being is filled with shame and guilt. There are no words. I was stuck in silence. There was nothing I could say to make it better now. I clicked off the computer. She demanded to see what I was looking at. I just refused. She gives up and goes back to bed. This is a true life story about the journey of a sex addict. Please read it, it could be you.

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The Supremacy of Christ Over Language

29. April 2009

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The Supremacy of Christ Over Language

Last week I had the privilege of spending a week in the city of Brasov "Romania" together with an incredible team from the U.K. I always find traveling anywhere for the first time an exciting experience, especially when you just don't know what to expect. While there, I learned an important message about language barriers, and the powerful God that overcomes them.

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What’s this got to do with leadership?

28. April 2009

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What’s this got to do with leadership?

Hello again everyone! Thanks for reading my blog. I often wonder how many of you read these entries, and come away wondering if I’m ever going to actually talk about leadership. Well, today is your day (sort of)! You see, I have been talking about leadership since day one. Each entry contains fundamental leadership building blocks that will help you be successful. They may not teach you specific skills, but these characteristics that God is trying to build, strengthen, and maintain in your life will play much more significant roles in your success than any tips I can give you about interviewing, goal-setting, or P&L analysis.

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A Brother’s Walk: A journey into modern monastic living

18. April 2009

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A Brother’s Walk: A journey into modern monastic living

Monks are interesting folks. They dedicate themselves to "contemplation", prayer, and life in community with others. Sometimes this includes the outside world, sometimes it doesn't. Their stories, as I came to learn them from my visits (which soon became annual events), involved spiritual battles and challenges that were far beyond my comprehension. What were these "principalities and powers", these battles going on for my soul, these spiritual beings that were more or less "departed" from this cosmos that we still talked about and included in our worship? After all, my entire spiritual development from childhood was, actually, not spiritual in any sense of the word. Now I was getting a new perspective. This was all new stuff. Taking hours, sometimes days, to just sit and "contemplate" the reality of Christ in these remote settings, of the indwelling of the Holy Spirit and what that really meant, what fellowship and community meant to me and my fellow brothers and sisters (including those in the monastery with me), and then worshiping (six times daily) with these dear people brought things into a much different balance than anything that I was taught on Sunday School flannel boards in the past. There was truly a "spiritual" out there, and that spiritual was alive, and well, and thriving. And, it was a necessary part of Christian development. In me.

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Twitter Contest

17. April 2009

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Its that time of year when free stuff just needs to be dished out.  Taxes have come and gone! You have paid Uncle Sam what they need and you need some free stuff to recover from that. This is going to be the first official Twitter contest.  If you don’t know what Twitter is check [...]

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What is your focus?

6. April 2009

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What is your focus?

The old adage is "your energy goes where your focus is." Like a laser beam, focused energy can be very powerful. Powerfully focused energy can be constructive or destructive. Energy that is disrupted or dissipated is just energy with potential. It can be stored for later use, sometimes moved or transferred from one place to another but, unused it accomplishes nothing and when any power source is disrupted it is, for a time at least , unused! Agreed? Okay, so what's the point? It is critically important to be aware of the direction and employment of our energy. It is our "personal power" as author and motivator extraordinaire Anthony Hopkins would term it. If we permit our energy to be disrupted we run the risk of at best, not achieving our goals and at worst - the proverbial burnout! So, what is your focus? Where is your energy? Is it being used or disrupted? Is it focused and powerful or is it weak or being transferred, stored, or in the worst case scenario, depleted? For many of us, regardless of our circumstances, the stresses of daily living (or surviving as may be the case for an ever increasing number of us today) drain our physical, mental and emotional batteries with each new event, depleting or exhausting our energy resources. Even with advances in technology and medicine many people today, at every age level, are losing their precious "personal power" one distraction at a time. None of us intends to have more day left at the end of our oomph but, it happens, and usually without us even knowing how!

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Overly Familiar

3. April 2009

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Overly Familiar

I find myself often speaking to Him in the imperative when I pray: "Lord, help me." "Lord, make this right." "Lord, forgive me." As I filter these requests through the leper's approach, they suddenly sound more like commands to me. I wonder how they feel to Jesus? These words come from years of familiarity with Jesus. Familiarity is supposed to be a good thing. It should feel like a great shirt that you would never get rid of, even though it has holes in it and the color faded about a thousand washes ago. I've known Him since childhood. But the problem begins when my reliance upon Him degenerates to a degree of expectation.

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